Bipolar – Pain in Pictures with Friends

Sometimes the only way we can show how we feel is through pictures. Yesterday My two girls went to the doctor and got their shots. It was the end of their world. Well… day. I’ll let them tell their story.

[Savvy is the kitten. She’s a…. rescue, something, cute ball of silliness. Bailey is my Kelpie (cattle dog). She always knows what’s best for me.]

The unknown brings us fear.
Sometimes we can’t deal with it.
Sometimes we need time to be alone.
Even though we might not feel right just yet,
having our besties near can be the most important thing in the world.

Bipolar –March is Off and Running

Make 2020 YOURS!

The third month of the new year is officially here, and I’m finding that the year seems to have found a rhythm it feels stable and ready to stroll through the coming months all on its own. We’ll need to talk that over a bit, do some discussing and have some disagreements, I think. I mean, when I talk about the year having a rhythm of its own, I’m really talking about the crazy-busy schedule that I’ve got. Bonkers. That’s what it is. Bonkers! I’m already in Occupational Therapy (OT) for my new thumb joint as a result of Osteoporosis (OA). Tomorrow (Monday) I start Physical Therapy (PT) for my chronic back and knee pain. While I’m excited and hopeful that this time I may actually find relief from the pain and become stronger and able to do things that I’ve never been able to do before, I’m also afraid. Pain is not my friend. I’ve had Pain physical pain for so long… the thought of more simply and easily releases my pent up tears and I can’t stop them. Once they’ve shown my fears I can usually face that fear and move forward. That’s what happens with PT. When I’m at home and I have the pain at night when I’m alone… I feel so desperate.

It throws me back to my struggles inside the arms of depression. You know the feeling? When it holds you tight and it feels like you just can’t get it to let you go? My fear of pain is sort of like that. (I have other physical pain issues but they are not necessary to go into for this post.)

I know that meditation can help me deal with the pain. I have a lot of knowledge about the mechanics of how to deal with pain. But, can I sit still long enough and focus long enough to put my experience to work? The answer is a big, fat, honest, NO. And that’s all on me.

My wish for you today is simple, seize the day with both hands, both arms, wrap your legs around it and bite it if you have to, but don’t let it get away from you before you give it a good wack and try to make the ball go in the direction you want it to go in. It might not go right off, maybe not even today, but wack it anyway.

These years get out ahead of us getting away and we end up just tag along like we have nothing to say about it. Well, we do. You do. Seize your day, seize every single day. Start today.

To help get you started to check out this video from my Every Day Playlist. The lyrics are below this post if you’d like to check them out.

Stand strong. Madness is unbecoming on you.

A Million Dreams

By Benj Pasek and Justin Paul

I close my eyes and I can see
The world that’s waiting up for me
That I call my own
Through the dark, through the door
Through where no one’s been before
But it feels like home

They can say, they can say it all sounds crazy
They can say, they can say I’ve lost my mind
I don’t care, I don’t care, so call me crazy
We can live in a world that we design

‘Cause every night I lie in bed
The brightest colors fill my head
A million dreams are keeping me awake
I think of what the world could be
A vision of the one I see
A million dreams is all it’s gonna take
A million dreams for the world we’re gonna make

There’s a house we can build
Every room inside is filled
With things from far away
The special things I compile
Each one there to make you smile
On a rainy day

They can…

Source: LyricFind

Bipolar- My Everyday Playlist

I love these songs. They make me feel good. When I feel good my day gets better, I feel better, I treat others better, I treat myself better, the world seems like a place I can live in and not only survive in but thrive in.

I chose this particular video of Just Like Fire because it doesn’t have her being carted away to a mental institution. What it does have is her emphasizing the amazing fact that no one is like her. Amazing!! That’s what I want us to come away from that song remembering. We’re just like fire… and no one can be just like we are. Remember that.

You may wonder why Celtic Woman – Tír na nÓg ft. Oonagh is included in this playlist… Okay. You’ve wondered. LOL The answer is – Why not?! They make me happy! There’s no big mystery. They just make me smile. Take this playlist and use it to create one of your own. Make it realistic. Can you actually listen to the whole thing before the end of the year? I regularly listen to about 1-9 and then all of it when I’m driving. Or, I go to the songs I need to hear the most.

Enjoy!

Bipolar Carnage – The Aftermath

Since I posted on the third, my brain has imploded. You know how it is. Imagine being on the top bunk of a three-bed bunk bed, in a tree fort, playing on the ladder against the house, running up the giant stack of bales of hay, climbing on the dirt dad just had delivered for the front lawn, you know, fun stuff, and then falling off straight away and landing on your face, the top of your head and your feet all at the same moment. Then, when you get around to it, you open your eyes only to discover that someone is standing on your face while they’re attempting to ascertain if you’re alright because you’re so dirty that they can’t tell which way your face should go. That is what my brain has been doing with all its time.

Fun.

I won’t give you a messy laundry list of my troubles because I don’t think that’s necessary. I do believe it is essential to share a couple of really critical truths that we must all remember even when the you-know-what goes sideways when it hits the fan.

  1. Life rolls along for everyone like the surface of the ocean with ups and downs all the time. Sometimes, those peaks and valleys thrash about much higher and lower for some of us. That is OKAY. We don’t need to punish ourselves for that. We’re not bad people when we become angry or depressed or talk a lot. We are not mean, we are not evil, we are not trying to hurt anyone.
  2. We often are not able to (or equipt to) deal with our emotions and situations that cause them to intensify so when they grow and grow, they eventually reach critical mass and we implode. (Which was my case this time.) What have I learned? Stop punishing myself and blaming others for not rescuing me. It happens. Stuff happens. Reset. Get rest. Recreate. Hit go and begin again. Oh, and maybe cry and scream and barfing might help too. And throw something. But only break things that are yours and don’t cost anything. Seriously.
  3. I realized some time ago that at the top end of mania is anger and then rage. Deep below that dwells depression and anger and then the rage. Why always the rage? That’s how it is for me. I’ve asked several counselors and they seem to see that as well. Have you found that too? When you’re very depressed to you rage at the world because it has abandoned you? Has your world collapsed and left you to die? Tell me. Do you feel the rage too? It’s okay to feel the rage. Would you know it if you’re feeling it? Words. Do you know the words to express it?

I realize that’s only a couple things to think about, but this isn’t a book and a couple things to think about is plenty when your brain is Bipolar. Just considering the idea that I’ve been blaming myself for the way my illness makes me feel has been a bizarre thing to think about. I mean… what the heck am I supposed to do with that? If I were a public speaker, I’d wave at the screen behind me and say something wise like, “Now let’s unpack that…” Sure. I’ll have to think about it longer. That’s the best I can do. I’m still picking my face up.

Wait! I had two very specific moments that set me off into Never Never Land and I was trying to do the same thing both times. It was that CPAP thing. I don’t like things covering my face, blah, blah, so on and so forth…. I just couldn’t do it. I literally ripped it off my face and became hysterical. The first time (I practiced watching TV trying to get used to it) I managed a panicked 20 minutes. The second time I made my kids try it first (they didn’t mind it) and I lasted something like 0 minutes before I ripped it off with the same hysterical glee as the first time. Nope. Not gonna happen. “And I am unanimous in my decision.” (See Are You Being Served, A British comedy show that I think is sooooo funny. You can find it on Amazon Prime via BritBox)

I’m up because my kidneys are suffering a bit from the medication I take for my RA. I can’t take Advil or anything like that because it makes it worse. So, in my infinite wisdom, to get rid of the headache I was giving myself because I was getting myself all wound up, again, I took some Excedrine Migraine (has caffeine) because I really didn’t want to throw up. That’s what that particular sort of headache does to me. The headache goes away, but I’d like to bang my head until I’m asleep before that happens. I mean, we have five or so ice packs and I’ll have them all up and down my back, neck, and head and the headache will still be there. Then heat, gentle stretching, gentle exercise, moving around, walking, etc. Uhhhh. Anyway… (Thinking Carol Burnett at the end of her show… wow, brain, slllooooowww down!!!) (See Taylor Swift’s new song, “You Need To Calm Down.”) Holy cow Batman!!! Someone, take my laptop away!!!

Remember me? Manic … uh …. Mommy??? Lol That’s a Hard Stop. Hard NO. Full Stop. (Did I get any of those right?)

Good morning people. I’ll be sharing the playlist I made to help myself stay afloat during my “time” (honestly, what DO you call it?) with you tomorrow. I think I finally have it the way I want to share it. I’m picky you know. Sometimes. Here, I’m talking with you. Conversation. Not so pucky… picky. ;0) Anyway, I’ll put the link up here tomorrow. It’s already publish under my name on YouTube. (shhh… so is a bunch of junk playlists…) I bet you can’t figure out which one it is.

I promise, it will be here later today… I really should learn not to say things like that.

I Digress… Valentine’s Day, Big Al and Rent A Center

Some people say that “other” people have problems. Then there are people who, well, are, uh, kind of, um, well, I’m not sure I should talk about them that way when I’ve never actually met them before. Anyway. Let me introduce you to invisible Al over at Rent A Center on this cold Valentine’s night.

The following is a transcript of the accompanying video (just in case you miss some of the audio, you really need to hear it…). I took this video at 4:00p.m. today in Parkland, WA while waiting for an appointment in my car. I quickly ditched the car and ran into the building. It didn’t help. The rest… is in the video. I let it speak for itself. What you don’t hear, well, I’ll let you work that bit out. SEE VIDEO BELOW

Special Valentines to all my QFC workers, they work so hard. They deserve to relax and kick back, and that’s why I have this promotion going on!

50% off recliners, mattresses, for all my QFC workers, who work so hard.

For most people, they get generic cards, candies, but here you can take the game to another level. Do something special for her, she’s been hinting that she wants a new washer and dryer, but you did not listen. But that’s okay because today we can fix your bad hearing. Today we can fix your bad judgment. Today we can fix that economically because we can fix that for a little over nothing. We have one spot available for delivery today. Who is going to be that special person to take the game on Valentine’s?

Someone is going to be extremely happy with this Valentine’s gift today. Come into Rent A Center and see Big Al and we’ll just that. What we’ll do is get you what you want, what she wants. Whatever that significant other has been talking about, been hinting to you, today you can fix that.