Are you listening? Can you hear me?
I need you to hear me.
I need you to know what I mean when I say, “I just can’t!”
You really need to understand this illness before we talk about, “I just can’t” It will make so much more sense then.
I’ve written about my troubles for years in my paper journals. I’ve always imagined that when I die, one of my family, my kids perhaps, would read them and finally understand me. They would finally understand that I’m not a bad person, a lazy person, or a freeloader.
I’m sick. I’ve always been a sick person.
With technology what it is today, it’s easy to find an informative book that explains what it is to have what I have. I’ve searched YouTube for videos that explain me and have found a few that try to do it and seem to do it well. We’re all different of course so what describes one person may not completely fit me. But if the person watching will just listen, listen and hear the pain and the wrongness of it all.
Wrongness. That’s what it is.
You’d think, maybe this is the child whose rage never seemed to end, a brat that pushed and pushed…. Wouldn’t you like an explanation?
I’d think someone who claims to love me would take a few minutes to watch a 5-minute video, just a five-minute video, to learn about me. Surely, someone, anyone of you must care enough to sit for five-minutes for me? Did you hang out in line for coffee or in line at the grocery store? Is that silly? Have you “liked” any funny pictures or memes today? Did you watch ANY TV? What were you doing on commercials? Why is this so hard for you?
Did you watch the news today or read your Facebook feed? Have you texted anyone or talked on the phone?
Would you think I didn’t love you if I didn’t return your calls or texts for two or three weeks? Would you call and check on me?
How much energy does it take to watch a video?
What are you afraid of?
I’d have thought I’ve shown you enough of what this illness is that you have nothing left to fear.
And yet, you don’t hesitate. You completely stop.
“I don’t have time.”
Will you have time to visit me in the hospital?
I’m not going to try to kill myself just to get your attention. But I can’t promise to do what’s best for me all the time.
Maybe I’ll have to mourn the death of you so that I can learn to live without you. Because you see, I already live like this. You are emotionally unavailable to me. Without “my people” surrounding me in a protective layer of love to cushion me when I fall….
Adults are just like children. We all have a fair expectation of being loved. When that expectation is not met we wither and begin to slip away.
Do you have five-minutes?
I need you to listen to me today.
Just follow the link.
Then maybe we could talk.
I’ve had a thought. I’ve unwillingly learned more about inappropriate relations whether they be physical, racial, or political just watching prime time TV than you’ve learned about me on purpose.
It isn’t rocket science. But it is science. I am sick. Unlike some illnesses like some cancers where the patient may go into remission or finally be overcome by it, my sickness has not given me a moment’s rest.
Sometimes I wish I had an illness you could see so that you would mourn me when I die. But for today, I live as though I’m normal. That’s how you see me. Normal. That’s how I look. This illness is rude beyond anything I’ve ever seen. It grabs hold and never lets you go. It bombards me from within, from where you cannot see. This illness, it stays in the “ON” position from before I was diagnosed until I die.
That’s right. I have it now. You cannot see it. I will die with it.
Would you watch the video?
Or would you rather I had cancer? Then you’d have something you could see.
I’m tired of being unseen for who I am.
Please, are you listening? Can you hear me?
I’m wondering if you’ve ever felt anything like this. This is all true in my life. What about you? If you have known that, I hear you. I will listen to you. I have way more than 5-minutes to give you.
* I had my counselor read this yesterday so that he could see what’s in my brain. I told him I was going to edit it, polish it up before I posted it so it would be clearer in some places. He suggested that I not do that. He felt that letting you see where my brain was at was a place of raw emotion. He urged me to keep the “rawness” in it. So, here it is. Right from my brain and served up to you on a virtual platter.